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Names and dismantles 'forced vulnerability': treating personal disclosure (a biggest failure, a childhood trauma, the last time you cried) as obligation rather than choice, typically borrowed from Lencioni's Five Dysfunctions of a Team, which places 'absence of trust' as the foundational dysfunction and prescribes a trust exercise built on shared weaknesses, and from a flattened reading of Brené Brown that drops her emphasis on boundaries and consent. The central argument is that this flips causality: psychological safety enables disclosure; it isn't produced by it. Conditions precede outcomes, and trying to manufacture the outcome directly, planting fully grown trees in a desert and expecting a forest, produces performative honesty rather than trust. In complexity terms this is an attempt to seed an attractor without first creating the conditions that would let one emerge, and the system responds with shallow compliance or harm. The harms aren't evenly distributed: under any power gradient no invitation is genuinely neutral, so senior people get to choose safe, flattering admissions while juniors feel pressure to disclose something real. Boettcher et al. (2024) is cited directly for the finding that forced vulnerability disproportionately burdens marginalised groups, and the piece extends this to related practices like mandatory pronoun-sharing and 'bring your whole self to work.' For anyone with a trauma history, coerced disclosure risks retraumatisation, and corporate facilitators are rarely equipped to handle what surfaces when it goes wrong. Names three myths that keep the practice alive: 'challenge by choice' (opting out is rarely cost-free), 'what's said here stays here' (information leaks), and 'we're family' (workplaces make people redundant; families don't). Argues PS was never about emotional rawness: it's the belief that you can ask a question, admit a mistake, or challenge a decision, not group therapy at work. The alternative: model voluntary vulnerability without expecting reciprocation, start with low-stakes risks like questions and small admitted errors, make participation genuinely opt-in, and build the organisational substrate through repeated behaviour rather than a single staged moment.